When you are so deeply lost that you can’t even recognize yourself, how do you recognize the signs you’re being abused by a narcissist?
It’s completely normal to have a handful of bumps in any relationship, but if you can relate to more than a couple these, it might be time to rethink things.
Below are 15 signs that should point you in the right direction.
1. You no longer trust anyone.
Above all else, a narcissist will always boast about themselves as if they were the crown jewels. A narcissist will not let down any opportune moment for them to speak highly of themselves to others.
Again, it’s all about that false validation, they will do absolutely everything and anything to obtain it. This is one of the biggest signs you’re being abused by a narcissist right off the bat. Especially if you are meeting this person for the first time ever.
Since you are a clean slate this means that they can talk about every false little achievement they’ve made in their life up until this point. If you’re lucky you might even get a chance to speak.
Being treated this way leads you to never trust anything anyone says to you. Everything the narcissist says to you is basically a lie, why would you want to trust anyone else now?
2. You find yourself apologizing, a lot.
Narcissists will never give you an apology, especially if it’s something that they did. They already know what they’ve done and they are going to refuse to acknowledge all of the consequences that follow after their cruel deeds.
If the person you are dealing with seems as if they are never going to apologize, it could be because you are dealing with a toxic narcissistic person. In their world, they are never the one who is in the wrong, only all of the other people who should’ve done things “differently” so that this never even happened.
3. All of a sudden you have developed a problem with trust, jealousy, and anger.
You overreact to the smallest things and your partner points this out to you often.
Narcissists do not hesitate with their jealousy and will proudly display it whenever they see something they don’t have. They are the most envious whenever they see someone who is essentially better than they are and will act out in every single possible way to deprive that person of praise or attention.
All of this seems like a bit much for one individual to carry out, but it’s true. A narcissist absolutely hates it whenever they find someone or something that is just far beyond their league and they know it’s going to drive them crazy thinking about how much that specific thing is going to gain that much more attention than them.
4. You find yourself telling lies to avoid angering your partner.
You may notice this warning sign in your partner if they are abusing drugs, alcohol, or any other kind of substance. It will become extremely obvious when they have been caught lying, their entire demeanor changes, and will try to make you feel as uncomfortable as possible.
According to research that was conducted on pathological gamblers and antisocial personality disorder, results had shown over 73 percent of people reacted being accused of lying would try to hide their gambling-like mannerisms.
5. You feel afraid of your partner and fear what he/she might do next.
Another thing that you will notice about a narcissist is that they are always needing constant approval from everyone. If there is even one person who defies them this praise they will act out in a temper tantrum to the likes that no one has ever seen before. You may think that this is an over exaggeration but I promise you it’s not.
Narcissists thrive off of attention which is one of the reasons why they keep you and everyone around for so long is because they need that validation. You may think that they could get anyone to do that, yes they could, but if you aren’t doing it then you will witness what it’s like to get on their bad side.
6. You feel hopeless.
Narcissists will never show any kind of form of compassion or empathy other than for themselves. Unless you are giving them something that will benefit them, they will never express any kind of empathy to you at all. They expect people to give them things in exchange for their presence.
Every narcissist believes that they are worth a lot more than everyone else claims to be. If you’ve noticed these aspects to someone, then it’s one of the signs you’re being abused by a narcissist.
7. You cry a lot.
This could be in front of your partner when they hurt you or you could do it privately while locked in a bathroom, closet or after your partner falls asleep. Whenever you decide that you want to confront them about all of the things they’ve done wrong to you or someone else, they will simply brush it off. If you give them any kind of emotion or any kind of feeling that goes against what they want they will just tell you that it’s your fault for feeling that way.
A narcissist has no empathy or sympathy for the people around them and it will clear as day when that happens to you. You may think that this person couldn’t possibly say such horrible things to you, but with a narcissist, it comes naturally.
8. You started drinking, using drugs, overeating, or not eating at all to cope with the abuse.
A sociopath will leave you feeling as if you were never of their concern to begin with sometimes. They will avoid meeting your wants and needs in order to get what they want in the end game.
A sociopath does not care about the way you feel, what you have to say, or show any concern for your physical well being. Their conflicts have now become your conflicts and there is no way of getting around it.