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Monday, October 22nd, 2018

 

9 WAYS CHILDREN OF NARCISSISTIC PARENTS LOVE DIFFERENTLY

1. We trust too easily and we don’t trust enough. The children of narcissists are taught that they live in a frightening world – one where love is rarely unconditional. In the early stages of healing, the sight of healthy love and affection always looks slightly suspect to us. On the other hand, the sight of toxic love is all too familiar and feels like a comfort zone. We trust in the monsters disguised as saviors far more easily than we do those who offer us a stable version of love. Dangerous people representRead More


9 WAYS CHILDREN OF NARCISSISTIC PARENTS LOVE DIFFERENTLY

4. We can be ‘swallowed whole’ by the person we love; we make excellent caretakers but we have to work on becoming better boundary-makers. Remember that hyper-attunement? Well, it comes in handy for being caretakers but not so much when it comes to maintaining boundaries. We learned to cater to the needs of our toxic parents at a very young age in order to survive. Many of us even took on parent roles. This means our boundaries are porous and need extra work and maintenance. Otherwise, we can be swallowed whole by whoever we’re datingRead More