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October, 2018


How Society Gaslights Survivors of Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Psychopaths

What they fail to understand is that rumination and over-analysis are effects of the trauma they experienced. Survivors of any form of abuse are always attempting to sift through the thoughts, feelings, and memories which have caused them this cognitive dissonance. That’s why they tend to tell their stories again and again – because they are attempting to provide a coherent narrative to the trauma they just experienced. This narrative allows them to overcome the cognitive dissonance and dissociation (including the disconnect among thoughts, memories, emotions) they experienced as aRead More

18 Things That Happen When An Empath Falls In Love With A Narcissist

1. The empath enters the relationship wanting deep, unconditional love. The empath is attracted to the narcissist, and feels their need for affection is being met even if the narcissist isn’t doing anything to develop the connection. The empath feels fulfilled and “in love” just from being around them. 2. The empath begins to believe that they have a “once in a lifetime” kind of connection with the narcissist, and the narcissist affirms it – what they have is special. This is what makes it seem impossible to just walk away. 3. TheRead More

Paul Allen, Microsoft co-founder and Seahawks owner, dies at 65

  Microsoft co-founder and Seahawks owner Paul Allen has died following a battle with non-Hodgkins lymphoma. SEATTLE — Microsoft co-founder and Seahawks owner Paul Allen has died from complications associated with non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma. He was 65. “Paul’s family and friends were blessed to experience his wit, warmth, his generosity and deep concern,” Jody Allen, Paul Allen’s sister, said in a statement. “For all the demands on his schedule, there was always time for family and friends. At this time of loss and grief for us – and so many othersRead More

5 Toxic Ways Narcissistic Mothers Emotionally Abuse Their Children

The narcissistic mother engages in the following toxic behaviors: 1. She chronically shames her children.  Shaming is a tactic the narcissistic mother uses to ensure that her children never develop a stable sense of identity or self-esteem – to ensure that they never grow independent enough outside of seeking her validation or approval. She shames her children for not accomplishing enough academically, socially, professionally and personally. She shames them for their choice of career, partner, friends, lifestyle, their manner of dress, their personality, their preferences – all of these andRead More

5 Ways Narcissists Project and Attack You

1. Calling you things that you are not A classic example, “You’re cheating on me,” when you are not, but you can bet they’re cheating on you. Or, “You’re selfish because you don’t want to do what I am asking you to do. You only think about yourself.” Meanwhile they are the ones who constantly make up excuses, break promises, are unreliable, think only about themselves, or compete with you. Not only that, they will forget all the things that you have already done for them. In their eyes, they are entitledRead More

5 Ways Narcissists Project and Attack You

3. Preemptive strike Whenever a narcissistic person feels threatened, they will call you the things that they themselves are as or are afraid that others see them as. And then they will try to stalk you, slander you, or discredit you. They will try to sabotage and destroy you. They will start a smear campaign and attempt character assassination. In their mind, frighteningly, you have become their mortal enemy. They also have no problem doing all of it preemptively and calling it defense. So if you privately call them out, set healthierRead More

New therapies could treat tissue swelling that afflicts cancer surgery patients and others

Every night for the past 5 years, Patricia Egan has prepared for bed by pulling on a pair of chipped foam leggings that encase her limbs from her toes to the tops of her thighs. The custommade garments, which look like something a hockey goalie might wear, are supposed to prevent her legs from swelling. But they also make her feel claustrophobic and keep her awake, says Egan, 67, a retired writer from Chico, California. In the morning, she switches to less cumbersome toe gloves and knee-high compression socks thatRead More

5 Signs You’re In A Relationship With A Narcissist

After reading the definition below, I think most of us could agree that being in a relationship with a narcissist is no fun. Narcissistic personality disorder:  a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance; a deep need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others…Behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem that’s vulnerable to the slightest criticism.  – Mayo Clinic Before we get into the signs that you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, it’s important to understand that we’ve all likelyRead More

New therapies could treat tissue swelling that afflicts cancer surgery patients and others

That lymphedema might be curable “was unthinkable a few years ago,” says developmental biologist Guillermo Oliver of Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine in Chicago, Illinois. The new hope reflects growing knowledge about the lymphatic system. “We are starting to understand much better the molecular principles of how lymphatic vessels work,” says vascular biologist Tatiana Petrova of the University of Lausanne in Switzerland. Researchers are also uncovering some of the molecules and cells that prevent lymphatic vessels from repairing themselves after they are damaged by cancer surgery, radiation treatment, or,Read More

‘What I learned about my husband that ruined our five year marriage.’

  The writer of this story has chosen to stay Anonymous, but is known to Mamamia.  We were the picture perfect couple, so bright and shiny on the outside, the ones everyone wanted to be like. It looked like we had it all, the car, the home, the life. He was the successful sports person, overcoming feats no one thought possible and I was the rock that stood beside him. The one who was always there, supporting him, praising him. But behind closed doors, things are not always what theyRead More