5 phrases sociopaths and narcissists use to undermine your confidence
3. You’re too sensitive
After once showering you with 24/7 praise and flattery, they’ll ignore you for days on end and wait for you to react.
When you finally do, they’ll accuse you of being sensitive or needy. They’ll insult, belittle, and criticize you (sometimes in a teasing/joking way), pushing your boundaries until you finally speak up.
Then they use your reactions to make you seem crazy. Within weeks, they can turn an easy-going person into a hot mess of insecurities and self-doubt.
4. You misunderstood
We all misunderstand what people say from time to time. But the narcissist and sociopath will intentionally say things they know will set you off.
Then when you react, they’ll turn it around on you and blame you for misunderstanding. Oftentimes, they’ll even deny that they ever said it.
This is called gaslighting—blatantly doing or saying something, and then blaming you for misinterpreting it (or denying that it even took place).
The fact is, you understood what they said perfectly fine. They’re just trying to make you doubt your sanity.
5. You can’t live without me
This is the hoped-for result that all sociopaths and narcissists want. They use manipulating phrases and actions to make you feel like you can’t survive without them.
But, they don’t do this because they want a healthy relationship with you. What they want is control over you, and they control you by making you feel like you’re crazy.
Don’t let them get away with it. You can and will survive without them.
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