5 Things To Expect After Breaking Up With A Narcissist
3. Narcissists aren’t afraid to sling mud.
If you were married to this person, they will bring the baggage to the courtroom.
Narcissists will sling whatever mud they can get their hands on – whether it’s true or not – just to see what sticks.
Be prepared for your partner to tell everyone how you’re the bad guy, whether it be among your friend group or in front of a judge.
Narcissists lack empathy, have a desire to win above all else and could care less about the consequences of their behavior.
Your ex will work hard to pollute the waters and paint you black to your co-workers, family, friends and anyone else who will lend their ears.
4. Narcissists will do their best to lure you into their game.
No matter the situation or the circumstances of the breakup, narcissists will always view themselves as the victim. Your ex will want to know why you’re “doing this to them,” and will pin the blame on you entirely.
And when you try to bring up real issues that need to be addressed, the topic will be shifted back to you and your “poor qualities.”
But no matter how inflammatory the remarks, it’s important not to get lured into your ex’s game. Take away your ex’s power by ignoring these comments and staying focused on the issue.
If possible, keep communication to a minimum during and after the divorce. If kids are involved, you may need to discuss the logistics of visitation or travel, but it’s okay to completely disregard any other communication. There’s no need to continually reopen old wounds or expose yourself to your partner’s abuse.
5. Narcissists will drag out the process for as long as possible.
Your narcissistic ex will likely refuse to settle or negotiate during the breakup, especially if we are dealing with divorce.
Remember, narcissists only care about winning and getting what they want. There’s no room for negotiation in their minds.
Whether it’s dividing your assets or deciding on child custody and support arrangements, your ex will drag out the proceedings. If you aren’t married, they will still likely play games with you throughout the whole process.
It can take years to heal from the wounds of a relationship and a breakup with a narcissist.
Having a good support system in place to help you handle the narcissist can help make the entire process smoother and less stressful.
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