8 Things That Happen When You Meet A Nice Guy After A Narcissistic Relationship
4. He takes corrections and criticisms affably
One major thing about narcissistic people is their total inability to accept corrections and criticisms. It’s a no, no in their books and this can get tiring and scary when they begin to get too angry when their wrong doing is pointed out to them. In your new relationship, you find it hard even to tell your partner that he wronged you or did something wrong because you’re afraid of the outcome. However, when you finally ask, he is grateful for pointing out his shortcomings and promises to change for the better.
5. He treats you right. Like the princess you truly are.
One of the tools that narcissistic people use to enslave relationships with them is by destroying the self-esteem of their partners. They never say anything good about you but rather thrive on pointing out your faults to you. When you get into a relationship with a new guy who knows your worth and appreciates it. He treats you like a princess, catering to all your needs and making sure that you’re happy. It feels weird because it’s been a long time since your happiness has mattered to someone other than you or your family. Hang in there and enjoy, you deserve it.
6. The horror of horrors, he apologizes.
An apology in a narcissistic relationship is as rare as a red herring in a thick bush. That means very rare. Narcissistic people believe that they can do no wrong and simply do not apologize for that very reason. You are used to that utter disregard of your feelings and lack of apology when your feelings are hurt; you will be tickled pink to realize that your new guy apologizes. Just like everything else in normal healthy relationships, this one will also need getting used to. It’ll be a while before you get used to it but do get used to it quickly, you were cheated of it before.
7. A big one, he loves you
You more than anyone knows that a narcissist doesn’t love anyone but himself. But somehow along the way, he manipulates you into thinking that the fault is yours and that no one can love you either. Well, guess what, he lied. The fault was his. Because of this, it’s hard for you to believe that your new guy loves you and even when you do, its harder to understand why. My advice, remind yourself every day that you are lovable and if someone tells you they love you, say that to yourself every day too.
8. He is truthful and honest
Most if not all narcissistic people are good liars. They thrive on deceiving people either through telling them lies or by manipulating them into believing lies. One of your major hang-ups as a survivor of a narcissistic relationship would be the issue of trust. It’s hard enough that we find it hard to trust people. Imagine how much worse it’s going to be when you’re fresh from a horrible narcissistic relationship. You have to learn to trust that he is honest and truthful. Give him the benefit of the doubt and let him prove himself to you.
To survivors of narcissistic relationships, it takes a while for you to get on your feet again and even longer to get over the traumas of such a relationship and linger still to adjust to a healthy relationship. Keep trying to get on your feet, be positive and remind yourself that everybody isn’t a narcissistic person.
With time, these actions that show that you’re in a healthy relationship would cease to be weird and become a real lifestyle to you. Wish you the best.
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