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17 Things That Happen When An Empath Loves A Narcissist

There Has Never Been A More Toxic Union, Than The Relationship Between An Empath And A Narcissist. Empaths often are misunderstood as being weak, or victims of their kindness. That’s not the case at all. Empaths are strong, resilient individuals who are highly sensitive to the feelings and emotions of others. However, when narcissists enter the picture, “victims” are exactly what empaths become, if they don’t know how to protect themselves and create boundaries. Empaths want to heal the world, and can’t stand to see someone in pain. Because ofRead More

How it Feels to Live With Borderline Personality Disorder

“I keep seeing my neighbour’s pool in winter, just an empty bowl of dusty blue tiles. Imagine standing in the middle of that, when suddenly, the pool fills up. In an instant, you’re drowning.” It’s Mental Health Week across Australia. Each state starts and ends the special week at different times, but today—Monday—there’s a lot of overlap. So I want to explain why this week should feel like an important call-to-arms, and tell you what it’s like to live with a common—and little understood—mental illnesses: borderline personality disorder, or BPD.Read More

Why Empaths Constantly Fall For The ‘Wounded Narcissist’

Some believe that the narcissist has come from a place of pain, that he or she has been subjected to unimaginable pain and as a result, they have taken on  a certain set of behaviors in order to deal with their past. Many people have been subjected to abuse and yet have found strength within themselves to not let their past dictate their future. The cause of NPD is not known but there are many theories which include… 1.Over valuing as a child 2.A learned behaviour 3.Genetics 4.Abuse in childhood The cause isRead More

The 3 Most Painful Things A Narcissist Will Do To You

Nowadays, narcissism has become a popular word. Sometimes it is used to describe a individualism and self-centeredness (What is good for ME and how to get what I want?). Other times the word to describe a lack of capacity in somebody to care about others. Nevertheless, what you have to know is that narcissism is not just a slight deviation from empathy that can be excused with the drive for success. The truth is that narcissism is a serious personality disorder with great toxic power over any relationship. Only After You HaveRead More

The 3 Most Painful Things A Narcissist Will Do To You

2. Gaslighting Gaslighting is a manipulative technique employed by the narcissist to make you lose track of how they are causing you pain. Basically, every time you rebel against their accusations, they will make you feel even more inadequate – for bringing up the subject, being crazy, stressing them out, generally pushing them away, and provoking their anger. The narcissist will convince you that is not them, it’s you. They will explain to you how emotionally unstable you are, how your issues are being projected onto them. The regular phrases theyRead More

What I Wish You Knew About My Borderline Personality Disorder

By Ashley Woods To the ones I love, I wish you knew how I long to be emotionally stable, to not question your love for me. To not be so hot and cold. Each morning, I wake up wishing my emotions somehow magically regulated overnight and I wouldn’t struggle all day to remain levelheaded. Hurting you hurts me and when I promise to do better, I really mean it. Yet, I know I will hurt you again and we’ll continue cycling around. I want to think rationally, but when those momentsRead More

5 Things A Narcissist Will Try To Do To Take Advantage Of You

The DSMIV cites as an “essential feature” of the narcissist a “lack of empathy that begins by early childhood and is present in a variety of contexts.” If lack of empathy isn’t a hallmark of an antisocial individual, then what is? – Stanton E. Samenow, Ph.D. For the layperson (including this writer), the word “narcissist” is often used without proper context. Associated with self-absorption and selfishness, the textbook definition of narcissism is used in a way that can apply to pretty much everyone with a pulse. However, some people are much moreRead More

5 Things A Narcissist Will Try To Do To Take Advantage Of You

3. “SHAPE-SHIFTING” Narcissists love to have their egos stroked, and are well known for having a “collection” of people to do just that. Even a narcissist realizes that – in order for people to “accommodate”  you – you must maintain some type of good will. To achieve this good will, a narcissist will often “shape-shift,” or embody a new persona in order to please people and get what they want. Namely, constant admiration and stroking of their ego. Quite simply, it is not normal behavior to alter personas from one personRead More

5 Reasons A Narcissist Can’t Stay In Love

“My husband didn’t need to raise his voice or hit me, as his method of violence was the words that could cut through me sharper than a knife ever could, destroying any sense of self-confidence I previously had.” ~ Megan Holgate, Life & Divorce Coach “Can a narcissist fall in love?” The question of whether or not a narcissist can fall in love is a fierce matter of debate. So before we delve too much into why they can’t stay in love, let’s address the above question. The answer, per most experts, is an unequivocal “Yes.” Here’sRead More

Why Empaths Act Strange Around Inauthentic People

BEING AROUND INAUTHENTIC PEOPLE IS CLOSE TO EXCRUCIATING, IF YOU’RE AN EMPATH. By definition, empaths are emotionally sensitive people who absorb the emotions and feelings of others- even the ones other people don’t know they’re emitting. Sounds like an exhausting job, right? Well, imagine being able to soak up all of those feelings, and being around a fake person. It’s perplexing, frustrating, and yes, excruciating, for an empath to be around an inauthentic person. Have you ever spent time with someone who seemed quite pleasant and kind on the surface, but whenRead More