The extreme narcissist is a person characterized by a complete lack of empathy for other people. They feel superior to others and see people as either enabling them to get what they want or preventing them from getting what they want.
The extreme narcissist is incapable of love. They can pretend, but it’s never real. They use people but they don’t care about them.
The extreme narcissist might enjoy what another person does for them, but they’re unable to value this person or form a meaningful attachment to them.
To the extreme narcissist, everyone is expendable. People are interchangeable, depending on the narcissist’s needs in the moment. To be in a personal relationship with an extreme narcissist is to never be loved for oneself.
Deep down, the extreme narcissist feels inadequate and insecure. As a result, they’re tremendously touchy and easily insulted. They need to surround themselves with fawning acolytes who are constantly building them up.
The extreme narcissist needs to be admired and adored. They can’t tolerate being questioned or challenged. Their spouse, therefore, must always coddle them and must never, ever make them feel bad about themselves in any way.
The extreme narcissist who has wealth or power will seek out a spouse who makes them look good to others; someone who’ll boost their fragile ego.
They want a spouse who’ll give them a strategic advantage in their social or business dealings. They’ll marry someone who’s attractive, wealthy or well-connected. Better yet, all of the above.
The extreme narcissist tends to go through spouses like they go through any of their other possessions. They’ll get what they need from their spouse and then trade them in for a new model, in the same way as people go for an upgrade on a vehicle.