If you have ever been in a relationship with a narcissistic person or a sociopath, you would understand what this article is all about. Anyone who has a run-in with a narcissistic person never comes out the same. Being with people like that has a way of warping the mind of even the most emotionally stable person. Narcissistic people, in particular, are very good at covert abuse. Most of them don’t see the need to physically abuse their victims, but when it comes to emotional and mental abuse, they are at the top. They make use of different techniques meant to break down the mind of their victims and leave them susceptible to further abuse.
One of these strategies is gaslighting. Narcissists use gaslighting as a form of emotional abuse that makes its victim feel as if they are literally going insane. Another strategy is blowing hot and cold. They are extremely good at doing this. A narcissist would never let you walk away from them; It’s just not possible. So, whenever they feel as if you might be planning to leave them, they react by becoming the most solicitous of lovers and partners. They will treat you like a queen and take good care of you. They fool you into believing that they have changed, and once they do, it’s as if a switch has been turned off, and they revert back to their old selves.
Narcissistic people are good at keeping their victims unbalanced emotionally and mentally and they don’t have to work for it. Just the shock of realizing that you are in a relationship with two people in one body is enough to keep you unbalanced for life. Narcissists are fanatical about maintaining a particular public image which always portrays them as kind, generous, loving people. Unfortunately though, once they are home they revert back to their true nature, which is an overbearing, self-centered partner who only likes to talk about himself and his goals while taking joy in belittling yours. The extra sensitive to criticism partner who would never accept the blame for things he has done has now come back again for good.
This article is for all the people who have had the great misfortune of being in a relationship with a narcissist or sociopath, and who has been made to feel like they were the crazy one. You are a strong person to have survived, and this is known from personal experience. One should try to never repeat this type of relationship, nor should they wish it on their worst enemy.
It can be very painful when the person who says that they love you begins to accuse you of being crazy and even going as far as quoting passages from psychological books to convince you that you are truly crazy. What is worse is that you can clearly see that what you are being labeled or accused of is exactly the same things they do that you have complained about. You are just left feeling confused and uncertain about your mental state, and that is a pretty horrifying form of abuse.
It might not be surprising to you that the narcissist and the sociopath do share a couple of personality traits. Both of them are at the top of the list of most dangerous mental disorders in the world. In Psychology Today, Dr. Tracy Stein gave a list of the personality traits that each of them exhibits.