This is why narcissists are so cruel to the people they date
- It’s normal to fight with your significant other, but narcissists can be incredibly cruel and threatening in heated situations.
- This is because they cannot see you as somebody they love, and someone who has angered them at the same time.
- Something traumatic could have happened in their early life, meaning they didn’t develop “object constancy.”
- Narcissists cannot change, so the best thing to do is to leave and protect yourself.
We’re all guilty of saying hurtful things in the heat of the moment. Every relationship has its ups and downs, usually resulting in arguments, but these don’t necessarily mean you’re going to break up.
When we quarrel with our loved ones, most of us have the ability not to do too much damage. This is because of something called object constancy. It basically means having the ability to still have a positive emotional bond with someone when you are also feeling angry, hurt, or disappointed with them. It also means being able to feel emotionally connected to that person when they are not physically around you.
To most of us, this is a given, and we can move past the little things. However, to those with narcissistic personality disorder, or people who are psychopathic or sociopathic with narcissistic traits, the negative feelings they have towards someone in the moment are all they can focus on.
If you date a narcissist, chances are they saw you as a worthy target, then they love bombed you into thinking they were your perfect match. They target strong, successful people to prey on partly because they like a challenge, and partly because it makes them look good. However, then they start breaking down your spirit with their abusive, gaslighting behaviour, then discard you suddenly and brutally.
People who have been in narcissistic, abusive relationships often describe their partner as having a “Jeckyll and Hyde” behaviour — one moment they are acting like everything is perfect and you are the love of their life, but something switches and a monster appears in front of you who is angry, cruel, and threatening.
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