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5 Things To Expect After Breaking Up With A Narcissist

It’s safe to say when you began this relationship, you had no idea that your SO was a narcissist.

Narcissists are irresistibly charming and charismatic at the start of the relationship. They’ll shower their partners with flattery, affection and gifts, but once the commitment is made, things start to go downhill fast.

Anyone who’s lived through it will tell you that living with a narcissist is a nightmare. The only thing worse than being controlled by one is breaking things off with one.

1. Narcissists never go quietly into the night.

It’s easy to assume once the breakup is initiated, your nightmare will finally be over. But narcissists tend to ramp up their abusive tendencies during the breakup.

Separation can bring out the worst in even the most amicable of couples, but narcissists use the time to continue their crusade of fear and manipulation.

If you don’t play the game carefully, strategically and without emotion, the whole ordeal can inflict severe psychological wounds.

It helps to have someone by your side who knows and understands how narcissists work. If you’re married or have any joint belongings, experts recommend hiring a lawyer who has handled divorce cases involving narcissistic spouses.

2. Narcissists are in it to win it.

Let’s be honest, nobody wins in a breakup. But if both parties can come to a fair and just agreement, the end result is far more satisfying.

Narcissists are not likely to view any agreement as fair or just. They’re in it to win it. There will be no negotiation and no mediation. Any sort of compromise on their part will be seen as defeat.

Narcissists need to be validated, and in this case, proven right. They’ll say anything (no matter how far-fetched the lie) to get what they want.

The story they spew during the breakup will probably be far from the truth as they attempt to save face.

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