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seven signs you’re dating a narcissist, according to a clinical Psychologist

They are sensitive and they overreact

When a narcissist’s emotional needs aren’t met, their reaction is often grandiose. According to Dr Talley, many narcissistic people may appear extremely angry or cry until the other person apologises.

They lack empathy

Your partner may offer to come over when you are having a bad day, but their motivation is most likely self-serving.

“When the world is all about you, there is little room left to have genuine and sustained empathy toward others,” says Dr Talley. “It seldom translates into action where they act in a way that requires sacrifice and humility.”

They make you feel bad about yourself

Don’t expect a narcissistic boyfriend or girlfriend to be genuinely happy for you. Instead, they will most likely be overly critical or attempt to downplay your accomplishments.

“They will frequently cause you to feel badly about yourself. Your success threatens them, so you can expect that they will respond to your successes by ultimately diminishing their importance,” says Dr Talley.

They can be charming and generous … sometimes

They may make you feel special at first, but the facade is unlikely to last (Shutterstock)

Narcissists have moments when they seem incredibly likeable, especially early in a relationship. “The narcissist can be charming and generous when it enhances their sense of how wonderful they are, but all this can turn in an instant to sulking or angrily lashing out when others do not respond as they expected,” says Dr Talley.

If it feels like everything switched after the “honeymoon period” it may be true. Narcissists “often make others feel special as they are welcomed into their world, which is painted as being exclusive, exciting, filled with potential and very special,” Dr Talley says. “But shortly after this initial stage they become dependent on the relationship and this dependency causes them to no longer be able to maintain the facade of genuinely caring for another.”

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