THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU FINALLY DISCARD A MANIPULATIVE NARCISSIST
He can’t get that you were afraid for your safety and he will see you leaving him as abandonment, but no one abandons a narcissist because, in his own eyes, he is perfect. He sees your relationship as a competition and you won.
Since he can’t accept the fact you discarded him first, he will stalk and harass you for months and maybe even years after you break up. He will stalk you on social media, come to your home, send you texts, call you or even use someone else to try to manipulate you into coming back to him. He is ready to do literally anything, from hacking into your computer to messing with your head and threatening you.
2. He will blame you for everything
At the beginning, he was acting like he was lucky to have you and that you are such a blessing. He acts like he is super lucky to score someone as good as you. But as the relationship is taking its course and he starts to show his real face, things deteriorate. Because of that, he will put the blame on you.
He will make up a stupid excuse to put the fault of your broken relationship on you. The reason is completely irrelevant—what’s important is that everything is your fault.
That is so shocking and hurtful and narcissists do it only because they see there is no way the two of you will ever get back together, so they make sure to clear their names and fool themselves into thinking they did nothing wrong.
3. Post-breakup triangulation
He will try to deliberately create a love triangle to diminish you and set your mind back to the time when you were with him. In these situations, you have to be careful on social media, avoid it and try not to go to the places you could meet him.
This is really important because you are still in the healing process and any sight of him or even a failed try of making you jealous can bring back your doubt and lack of respect. You have to make sure to have no contact whatsoever with your narcissist, so you deny him the chance of sucking you back into the hell you’ve lived in.
4. He will guilt trip you into staying
After you finally discard a narcissist, he will try to guilt trip you into coming back to him. He will remind you of all the wonderful things he has done for you while you were together, and there were a lot of them, but unfortunately, every one of those actions had an ulterior motive.
Every time he did something nice for you, he wanted something in return. He will shove these things into your face, hoping you’ll remember only the good things and give him another chance.
5. He will make you look bad
You can’t dodge this bullet. You can’t hide the fact that you broke up because the narcissist wants to make sure everyone knows you broke up and now it’s time for those people to choose sides. Your narcissist wants you to experience total abandonment from your friends.
He will bad mouth you on social media and gossip about you whenever he gets the chance. He will try to convince people you did all the things he actually did to you. He wants to gather as much sympathy as possible and make you into the bad guy.
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